Manipulation is everywhere. It is not just how you speak, but, in your gestures, your posture and overall the tone of your voice.
Some common Kenyan phrases can be said and should be taken at face value, but many times common phrases in Swahili are used to manipulate you.
This funny Kenyan phrase can be used in jest, but like every joke, there is some underlining truth in the statement.
Did you know men are more likely to die from road accidents or poor health than women?
Think about it “mwanaume ni kunywa pombe kali (a man should only drink whiskey” you drive drunk and get an accident.
“Mwanaume ni kuchapwa na baridi” (aman should not wear jackets), you get sick soon after.
The notion of men being tough is the root of the “Mwanaume” saying and it may be causing an increase in the male mortality rate.
This is a Useful phrase in Swahili that can be used to manipulate almost everyone. It was especially used and is still used by toddlers today when they manipulate the parents into doing something that they said they will do even if it was just in passing.
Manipulation starts at an early age, but this is one of the earliest manipulation techniques in Kenya.
This Kenyan phrase is often used in relationships to justify wrongdoing. When you ask your significant other in a Kenyan relationships, why they did something and they respond with Hata wewe ulifanya( you also did it), odds are they did exactly what you are accusing them of.
They are simply justifying it by saying you have done something similar before. This Kenyan phrase is often followed by “amini Kenye unataka kuamini” meaning believe what you want to.
These are funny Kenyan phrases mostly used in jest but can be quite manipulative. Imagine the time you just wanted to have fun but got afraid because people will call you ratchet.
Or that time you wanted to buy a Subaru but was scared because people would refer to you as a Fuck boy.
Or even the things you do for your boyfriend so that you can be more wife material. Think about it… really think. Isn’t that manipulation?
A common Kenyan phrase, especially in the workplace. It is used to tell you that you cannot change the status quo because we found it like this and you will leave it like this.
Corruption in Kenya and bribery are a great example of how this phrase has manipulated Kenyans into accepting that these vices are part of the norm.
This is a Kenyan Swahili phrase that is used many times among peers or friends. Imagine that time you were talking to your friends and then one of them says “mimi siwezi fanya ivo(I cannot do that).
It often makes you feel inferior to them. It is a tact meant to tell you if you want to be my friend or my peer you cannot do that, it is not acceptable.
This is a Kenyan phrase that can be used to manipulate a wide range of people. First and most common is in a relationship situation where one partner wants to leave and the other says, “we have been together for so long, don’t throw all that away.”
Another situation is in a job or career situation where someone wants to quit or change careers, and others, especially family, tells them that they shouldn’t because they have already put in so much effort in it,